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collective + individual hard times

Neoliberalism and other systems have us constantly thinking at the level of the individual (individual health, individual wellness, individual mindset, individual choice).

And while it’s true that what happens at the levels of our bodies and minds is so, so important, I think it’s also important to remember that we live in a culture defined by systems that keep us caught in individual thinking and individual solutions (particularly if in doing so you feel small and isolated against the scale of the problems, which are, these days, planetary).

It makes sense, because if the problem is YOU, then you have control: you have to work harder, grow more, change yet another thing about yourself (or shame and berate yourself for the ways you don’t change, don’t work harder, keep “choosing” the things that keep you stuck).

But if we don’t focus on ourselves as a/the problem, if our solution isn’t to improve ourselves, what then?

If you’re a person living within systems of domination, one thing to notice is that often you are just experiencing the results of a system operating on you at an individual level.

This can show up in many ways: that harsh voice in your head, that feeling in your body, a sense of tension that won’t ease, anxiety…all the ways our nervous systems respond to and our brains try to make sense of the stress of systems of domination.

And, if we look at what’s going on from this perspective, then the way through isn’t to change yourself.

Sometimes this realization/knowing means we feel the grief of our experiences more deeply. Sometimes it means we feel a little more ease, knowing that if the problem isn’t us, we don’t have to carry the weight of judgment and blame so closely.

Sometimes we realize that when we don’t have to hold so tightly to the idea of bettering ourselves, there’s a whole landscape of experience here for us to be with.

Sometimes it means realizing that you know something about what it’s like when these systems are working on you, and other people, in a particular way.

I think this kind of work helps us remember that we are a part of a collective of people experiencing different parts of the same workings of cultural systems. (And sometimes, we hold a knowing about ways we might make it through the hard times systems create.)

And, I hope it can help us turn towards each other, remind each other that maybe we aren’t “wrong” for having a hard time, that our hard times are connected, and not separate.

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